WEDDING RING IS NOT A SYMBOL OF LOVE - COUNSELOR ADOFOLI SAYS

By Joyceline Natally Cudjoe

The famous Counselor, Counselor Frank Adofoli has entreated women to discard the idea that wedding ring is a symbol of love.

According to him a wedding ring is a symbol that indicates that one is married.

“A wedding ring is a ring worn by a married person, given to her by the spouse during a wedding,” he said.

The renowned counselor in an interview with The Spectator said marriage ring does not demonstrate a man’s love for a woman but the mutual respect, understanding, support, commitment among others that a man shows to his wife is the demonstration of love.

Answering whether expensive rings demonstrate a man's love for a woman, he said love does not have a price and an expensive ring does not guarantee a successful marriage.

“You can have an expensive ring but can have the worse of marriage, the ring can last long but the marriage cannot last,” he said.

 The Counselor further stated that when one’s wedding ring get rust the marriage does not rust adding that couples should spend on things they could afford.

He however advised the female youth to get rid of their obsession for expensive rings which he said was just a way of complimenting their mode of fashion, stating that one can have expensive ring on but the way a man feels for them is less expensive.

THE DEBATE

Is a wedding ring a symbol of love, a bond or a symbol of marriage? When one’s wedding ring rust does the marriage rust as well?

Today, wedding rings are a billion dollar sentiment of love, but no one can really say for sure when this age old tradition actually started.

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Some believe that the oldest recorded exchange of wedding rings comes from ancient Egypt, about 4800 years ago and is mostly worn on the fourth finger of the left hand, known as the ring finger.

To the Egyptians and many other ancient cultures, the circle of the ring was the symbol of eternity, with no beginning or end and the hole in the center of the ring wasn’t just considered a space, but rather a gateway, or door; leading to things and events both known and unknown.

INTERVIEWS

When The Spectator contacted a cross-section of Ghanaians to have their views on the kind of marriage ring they prefer, they said, to give a woman a ring signifies never-ending and immortal love therefore they would opt for something expensive, long lasting, something that symbolically depict their love for them.

According to Isaac Fidel Hayford, an Engineer said in as much as how every woman wants to feel special and unique, a wedding ring should bring the uniqueness in my wife, I will get my wife to be the most expensive ring to demonstrate my true love for her and how I do cherish her.

Nana Micah a radio presenter said oh yes I would even like to spend a fortune on the ring rather than on the event, the ring she will keep forever and can even pass it on to our children bear in mind that ring is a symbol of ownership and control which signals a clear taken status.

Vincentia Enyonam Attipoe a student said I want expensive or quality ring so I can wear till eternity, the ones in the market do not last long, you may have to change it every three years and that alone is a waste of money.

Daniela Amoah a beautician and a divorcee expressed deep sentiment that she would prefer expensive ring that would last long because her former marriage did not last together with her ring.

Fred Sanu Richards a journalist bemoaned that the rate at which some men perceived women to be an object acquired should not be tolerated.

He said many people would say that expensive rocks (rings) were symbol of love and devotion ignoring that the idea itself was manufactured by profiting businesses which gave arbitrary definition of symbol.

“Why can’t long term investment be a symbol? Indeed would it not be more impressive to show off a house than a finger rock? If you need a ring to prove my love, it is not my lack of an expensive ring that’s the problem but what happens after the marriage ceremony.”